Tomo: Chatbot Cheerleader for the Lonely

Mobile prototype coaching users through their loneliness.

  • Sets customized goals for users to encourage the building of meaningful human connection.
  • Coaches users through conversational AI that provides guidance and support in alleviating loneliness.
  • Stimulating a listening friend, provides company and empathy for users looking to vent about their difficulties.
  • Character creation allows for user to build their companion.
Role: Project Manager, User Researcher
Scope: 4 months
Team: Natalia Parraga, Savannah Dalgado, Malcolm Darko, Jakob Visic

The Challenge: Solve for Loneliness by Developing a Digital Product.

More than 1 in 10 people aged 15 and older said that they always or often felt lonely (Canadian Social Survey, 2021).

Our task was to find a market that was unsaturated and projected to grow.

Understanding Lonely Markets

Mental Health

Those with depression, or any mental illness such as dementia, Alzheimer’s, etc.

Productivity

Those that struggle with balancing work and maintaining social relationships.

Mobile Users

Those who prioritize para-social connections: online relationships no genuine connection.

Young Adults

Those with weak social skills, especially the next generations who mature in the digital.

  • Screenshot of Mural where research is being shared with sticky notes.
  • Screenshot of Mural where digital product ideas are being shared and organized with sticky notes.

Market Saturation: Chatbots for the Lonely

logo of character.ai

Character.ai

Users converse with user-made AI chatbots, with a focus on fictional characters and entertainment.

replika model

Replika

Modeled from real text conversations, allows users to practice social skills using GPT’s conversation model.

Xiaoice model

Xiaoice

Similar to Replika, has a 150 million userbase with some reports on para-social relationships.

Woebot logo

Others

Woebot, Wysa, and x2ai: focused on mental health wellness, with a range of professional and human involvement.

Focus Groups: A Conversation with Character.ai’s Psychologist chatbot:

Preference for Non-Human Chatbot Characters

Participants felt more comfortable talking to a character rather than a “therapist” or chatbot posing to be human-like.

More Comfort Venting to a Chatbot over a Person

Some reported feeling at ease talking with the chatbot as there was no potential for human judgement.

Skeptical About AI’s Effectiveness, especially for those with Mental Health Issues

Concerns included misdiagnosis of mental health, the potential for users to get too attached to the chatbot, and replacing human connection with AI. Some participants described short-term relief but struggled to see the potential for a long-term solution.

Surveying Youth on AI and Loneliness

52.4% are open to having an AI chatbot to help with tasks/coaching

Only 23% are open to receiving psychological advice from an AI chatbot

61.9% currently use digital tools [social media, online communities, chatbots, chatrooms] for mental health help or alleviating loneliness

Digital tools were more likely to score lower in effectiveness than mental health counselling in alleviating feelings of loneliness

“I have not needed to use AI nor mental health services to alleviate loneliness, but I would be more than open to use an LLM, especially if it has been fined tuned for mental health support.”

“Obviously LLM can’t fully replace human connection right now, but the accessibility of AI makes it a quick tool for externalizing emotions.“

“I do play games and use social media when I’m not mentally well or feeling lonely, but I would not say that these digital tools are helpful for resolving my issues.“

Brand First Product: Creating Tomo’s Look and Feel

Low-fidelity prototypes were skipped as we understood chatbot user flow from market research. We felt that Tomo’s brand (writing and illustrations) would be more important than the UX design given the personal nature of the product.

  • Moodboard of Tomo prioritizes a friendly and calming feel.
  • Style tile of Tomo
  • Onboarding userflow that sets social goals and allows user to customize their coach.
  • Example user flow of user venting to Tomo, with a focus on conversational tone.
  • User flow of Tomo giving advice to user regarding pre-set goals, including gamifying social skills.
3 males user testing tomo, their faces aren't visible, they are writing on sticky notes and using their phones to access the prototype.

Iterative Design: Using User Testing Findings to Improve Tomo

Pains:

  • Onboarding Process: Overwhelming amount of text. Process felt long, and had no way of knowing when you would be done.
  • Lack of Flexibility/Personalization/Characterization: Desire for voice input option. Use of term “User” distracted participant. Desire for characters to be more interactive (animation, expressions, changes in illustrations).

Gains:

  • Character Customization: Appreciated illustrations and process of building a character.
  • Survey/Goals: Participants enjoyed seeing the result of their social placement survey. They could see themselves aspiring to reach social goals and using goal-tracking.
4 screens previewing tomo product, from left to right there is, two of a chatbot conversation, one with an onboarding survey, and one with social goal setting.

“It doesn’t make itself look like it’s trying to force you to fix your problems, but rather it gently holds your hand and guides you… It’s very nice.” – Participant

6 people standing, 3 are kneeling infront. A mix of Red Thread Innovation judges and the winning Tomo production team. Unfortunately 3 people have their eyes closed.

“I would use this.” – Ok Ikejiani, CEO of Red Thread Innovations

Tomo Becomes an Award Winning Product

We tied for first place in the design sprint and our research was nominated for a 2023 Student Generator Award in Collaborative Research.

REFLECTION On improving the Development Process
  • Define North Star: During the define phase, we had different perspectives as to what Tomo was. This made running progress meetings and establishing tasks as we transition into development more difficult.
  • Communication Clarity: Closer to the deadline, responsibilities became blurred. This caused repetition in output and affected the quality of our work.
Reflection On The product
  • Chatbot Psychosis: Since the development of Tomo, reports have come out of people reaching critical level in their mental health as a result of excessive use of chatbots. While we developed safe-guards against over-reliance in Tomo, it’s hard to say if this product would be welcomed in the current market.

Natalia Parraga

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Fuelled by a curiousity of systems, appreciation of data, and love of people.

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